Attitude management and thought management are one in the same. I, however, consider the term “attitude adjustment” a tad harsh for most situations. When someone is told they need an attitude adjustment it is usually in a condescending tone. Hence, it becomes offensive and people resist or defend their situation compounding the initial intent. So, given that, I prefer to suggest that by changing one’s thought, the outcome will have a better appeal and try to support the benefits of change.
When we deal with others in joint ventures, attitude management or thought management will make a major difference in how needs are met. Since we are all individuals, with individual desires and individual thinking capabilities, meeting the needs of each other is important enough without having resistance on approach. More often than not, the desired objective gets thrown by the wayside in a bad attitude situation as a result of the negative environment. Because we have become a “reactive” society, dealing with a deluge of stresses everyday, rather than a “responsive” society, getting others to understand our needs becomes more difficult. When we can adjust our thoughts to try to understand another’s needs, we have a much better opportunity to have our needs understood. At this time, we can submit our needs and then determine if they can be met within this relationship.
If your belief system suggests that those needs “have” to be met within this relationship, you are in trouble. Remembering my last post, we can’t be everything to everyone, and perhaps the counterpart in this relationship is not able to be everything to you. “Allowing” others to be, have and do gives you the same rights and that mutual respect will at least provide a better understanding of your position on your needs. You can then decide to stay firm on your needs or compromise. If you choose to compromise, be joyful in that, otherwise the “allowing” on your part will not be allowing but “tolerating” which in the end will mean your needs aren’t satisfied and you won’t be happy.
Until next time….