More on words we use everyday. I can’t say this enough. We need to begin keeping track of our tongues. I know people who are not able to complete a single sentence without profanity spoken at least once. Our permissive society has allowed this I suppose as a freedom of speech, and as much as we in the democratic world are given that freedom, solid streams of profanity serves us less. Oh, perhaps it makes us feel good to tell someone off and get the stress out of our systems, but that can be done without the profanity.
In fact, telling someone where they stand with you in a calm voice even with humour and no profanity sticks like glue. Why? Because the impact is so different from much of today’s dialogue that it becomes noticable and memorable. If you develop the art, you can tell people off in such a way, they will ask for more! We need to become responders in these situations rather than reactors. That requires a bit of time to digest the situation and formulate a response suited to the incident.
I know people and perhaps you do too, who start a day early building so much venom and actually look forward to the event of violent verbal abuse. You’ve heard it. “I can’t wait until the next time I see that ‘so and so’!” “How dare they, next time I see them I’m going to give them a piece of my mind!” Followed by more expletives and the works. They make a contest out of it almost. It is not unusual for this personality type to be continually complaining, blaming and pointing the finger at everyone else because they are in the financial and moral destitute arena.
I knew a man who would respond with “Why you funny faced rascal, what’s your problem today?” It allowed him time to develop a proper response to the situation and use plain English to discuss the challenges. Try when you are in a good mood, to come up with your own humourous phrase to your first response and then allow yourself next time to develop proper dialogue.
Until next time….